Feminism is a liberal political movement that encompasses a wide variety of variations. Some of those are generally rational and palatable, but a great many of them are not. Personally, I choose not to label myself politically. My experience with feminists and feminist groups has been largely negative. I’ve been told that I’m a “gender traitor,” that I have “internalized misogyny,” that my personal, reproductive, and sexual choices are flawed. I’ve been told that I haven’t experienced the hardships that I have.
I do not find that feminism is typically for equality between the sexes. They either argue for female superiority and privileges, or they argue towards keeping men down. For example, feminists lobbied to change the definition of rape so that men cannot be raped by women, and this is still the law today in America and Great Britain, and I think Canada as well. Feminists bullied the creator of one of the first women’s shelters for lobbying for and creating men’s shelters as well. They sent her death threats, killed her dog, and forced her to move.
There are many, many similar stories. Feminism is not that simple and there are many alternative routes to equality that do not involve allying myself with a political movement I disagree with.
In fact, telling people what they are and what they believe in goes against feminism. Women (and men) are individuals with agency to choose what they do and do not call themselves.
Having so many people disagree with feminism should be a sign to re-examine your movement and the criticisms it is receiving, not to blame those who have left it.